My god this is applicable to so many situations: this is in no way a WE situation.
I love all this. So good. And I once saw a friend pull out the ONLY ACCEPTABLE PARENT LINE in a situation like this: “Are you hurt, or just scared?” IT WAS LIKE MAGIC. The kid paused, inhaled, looked down at the body part in question, then looked back up and said, all calm again, “Oh, just scared!” and back to business as usual.
i keep seeing misinformation about this, so: queerplatonic relationships do not have a set definition. the name comes from the idea that it’s “queering” the platonic relationship, tailoring it to the individual relationships’ own desires. it isn’t necessarily romance lite, but it also isn’t necessarily whatever definition you want to impose on it. the point of queering the platonic relationship is to break away from strict allonormative views on friendship, romance, and sex, not to make a new categorical box to fit in.
the answer to “what is a qpr?” is “whatever you want it to be.” sometimes that is romance lite. sometimes it’s a deeply committed friendship. sometimes it’s friends who have a sexual relationship. sometimes it’s based on an entirely different mode of attraction. sometimes it’s fluid and impossible to put into words. it’s whatever you want it to be. it’s queer.
today’s children are gonna become teens and clown the shit out of us for ‘eepy’ and 'blorbo’ but they’ll say it in cocomelonese so we won’t understand them
today’s eepy blorbo is yesterday’s heckin doggo is last week’s smexy bishie
I hate that you’re right and that I understood all of that.